Sex is a basic human need, not too far behind essentials like water, food, clothing and shelter. Since the dawn of mankind we have all craved more of this magical union of body, mind, and spirit. Have you ever, even once heard someone say, “You know, I think I need less sex?” Certainly not!
You and your beloved won’t be able to get enough of each other if you indulge in some S.P.I.C.E. !
Surprise.
Send a short text saying you can’t wait to see him. Then pop into the office with a milkshake and a quick kiss. When you’ re just relaxing at home, an unexpected caress or squeeze as you pass in the hallway reminds your love that he is the sole object of your affection, any day and every day. Write a goofy poem about his charms, and leave it on his voicemail. Never underestimate the power of everyday, spur-of -the moment surprises. Knowing you’re loved and appreciated enough to merit a sweet surprise works wonders in any relationship . Sexual bonds, like any other, are enhanced by being regularly reinforced with a bit of the unexpected.
Play .
It brings people together, and often creates lasting ties. More importantly, it invariably causes the urge for more of the same! No need for special uniforms or equipment ( although that might be fun, too). Make a grown-up hideout, pretend the floor is lava, plant flowers in the rain. If you both get muddy, there’s a great time for a bubble bath for two! Give it a try. Don’t worry about looking silly or making mistakes. There’s no wrong way to play. When the inevitable fun and laughter gets going, it follows in your sex life, too! Now who wouldn’t crave more of that?
Inspire.
You’ll find that your most successful and memorable efforts in the kitchen (or anywhere else, for that matter) are truly inspired. So, then, is your best lovemaking. It means you feel sufficiently moved to gather the necessary ingredients, then combine them mindfully and lovingly, in order to create something extraordinary. A fast-food hamburger will keep you from starving. But it can never hope to provide the pleasure and satisfaction of a perfectly grilled steak. To be inspired is to demonstrate forethought, enthusiasm and passion. Inspired lovemaking may be something simple, like fresh new sheets, or a couple of quirky, textured pillows. Maybe a pretty dish of some favorite (bite-size) candies or fruits within easy reach will help show your lover how special he is. A little inspiration transforms the lovemaking experience into something personal, passionate, and otherworldly.
Communicate.
No, REALLY communicate. With text, email, and all the social media around today, it’s easy to overlook the value of face-to-face conversations. While flirty texts can be fun and sexy, nothing will ever replace eye contact and the spoken word. So turn off the phone, TV, tablet ,and anything else with an actual “Power” button. Do it frequently. This precious time is otherwise committed! Allow your lover to be your sole focus. Even if it’s just for a short while, you ‘ re showing, not just telling, how very important this relationship is. Satisfying sex relies on making your partner feel treasured and respected .
Enjoy!
Embrace and absorb everyday joys with your beloved. Make a habit of sharing with each other the best parts of your day, instead of all the worst. It’s too easy to launch into “complaint mode” about daily struggles: traffic jams, petty coworkers, overdue bills. Instead , think of at least one cool thing that happened in your day, to share with your love. This cultivates shared joy in your relationship. The more often you share daily joy with each other, the more attuned you become as a couple . Then your sex life, your joy, and your relationship will thrive and flourish. Devote time and attention to nurture it every day, and you’ll both reap the rewards.
