6 Ways To Make Your Wife Fall In Love With You Again
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person – Mignon McLaughlin
Do you sometimes get the feeling that there is something missing in your marriage? Does it sometimes feel like your wife is more like a companion or friend rather than the passionate romantic partner that you once had?
It’s easy to get caught up in everyday battles and the small annoyances of marriage. But for the marriage to really succeed, you need to focus on what is really important and work towards building a long lasting loving relationship.
Read on and you will learn how you can bring love and romance back into your relationship.
But before that, let’s turn the clock back a little. There was a time when both of you were head over heels in love with each other. You must have done something right then. After all, the woman of your dreams married you, didn’t she?
Marriage is like any other relationship. You need to work towards constantly rekindling the love and passion if you want the spark to remain in your relationship.
Here are a few ways to make your wife fall in love with you again:
Give her compliments: Sincere compliments, when given frequently will not only make your wife feel good, but both of you will soon start feeling closer to each other too. Remember the compliments you used to give her when you were dating. You could start by giving her a small compliment each day. It could be about her looks, about some of her actions or even the support she provides to you and the family. The key is to make it sincere. Remember, after years of living with you, your wife will be quickly be able to detect any note of insincerity in your tone or even your actions. So start slow. Compliment her when she is not expecting it. That will surprise her and she will love it if it’s sincere.
Another way is to talk highly about her to other people – especially in your immediate circle. Even if she doesn’t hear you, she will adore you when she eventually hears it from somebody.
If you find it difficult to get back to the habit of complimenting, start by making a list of things that you are grateful for. Focus on your wife in that list. List down everything that is good about her – how she looks, how she supports you, how she takes care of the house and your kids when you are busy with your work – anything you can think of. Read it daily a few times. Slowly your mind will start focusing back on your wife the way it did when you were dating.
Pamper her with your attention and gifts: I am not saying that you should go out and buy expensive clothes or jewelry every day. But make it a point to surprise her pleasantly. Sometimes something as simple as a rose or a romantic dinner can do wonders to your relationship. When you pick a gift, ensure that you don’t pick it solely based on its utility value (like men mostly do). Use gifts as a language to communicate your feelings for her. Pick gifts that will make her feel good about being herself – a washing machine does not fall in that category.
If you are still unsure of what to give, you can update yourself by reading some of the leading women’s magazines. Especially go through the advertisements. They will guide you. You may have lost your ability to gauge, but trust me, product marketers know what women want.
If you are still wondering what to give, here are some gifts and surprises you can start with:
- Get her a good dress – something classy that matches her taste of color.
- Plan and go on a romantic holiday or vacation
- Cook her favorite dinner. Learn how to make her favorite dishes and you do the cooking.
- Pleasant smelling perfumes and toiletries are always a hit. Gift her some aromatherapy goodies – essential oils and perfumes.
- Chocolate is another perpetual favorite. But you need to be careful here. Don’t gift chocolates when you wife is working hard on her diet.
Go on a romantic date: Plan a date that helps you communicate that you still truly adore her and want her. Make it a unique experience – something novel or even a bit adventurous that provides a lasting and romantic memory. Maybe you can go on a trip without planning every step like you usually do. Try something adventurous – like a hot air balloon ride or a horseback riding or visiting an exotic country. Another thing you can try is to do a new activity together –go camping or learn ice skating or maybe even take a class on how to give a sensual massage.
Turn the clock back: One good thing about marriages, especially long ones is that it creates a lot of good memories. Revisit those memories once in a while and relive them. Become the lovers you once were. Relive those kisses; visit the place where you went on your first date or go to the movie theater where you watched your first movie together.
Together, watch your wedding video. Tell her how grateful you are to have her in your life.
Observe – Notice the little things: Notice if your wife gets a new dress or a haircut, when she wears a new perfume or jewelry. Notice these things and make it a point to compliment her. Make small gestures that tell her that you love her – surprise her with kisses, hold her hands – these small actions communicate a lot. Appreciate and value her work and the support that she provides you. Listen to her when she talks. Make it a point to make eye contact and smile when appropriate. Be empathetic to what she has to say and display the same level of interest you showed when you were dating.
Rekindle the fire: One of the unfortunate downsides of long marriages is that physical intimacy and sex sometimes tend to become a mechanical process rather than an intimate encounter. This usually happens because of the hectic lifestyle – as the couple gets busy with their jobs, kids, and other household and family responsibilities. Sex often takes a backseat or turns into just another routine activity. Focus on bringing the passion back into your relationship and becoming deeply intimate with your wife. Spend quality time together in bed. Let her know that you still want her physically and making love to her is something that you really enjoy. Remember, without emotions and deep passion, sex is nothing but a mechanical physical act. Focus on making love rather than having sex. Let your wife know that you truly love her and want her.
Here are some more actions that will help make your wife fall in love with you again:
- Tell her how good she looks.
- Smile and wink at her across the room at a party.
- Gaze into her eyes when she talks to you.
- Buy her something in which you know she’ll look good.
- Watch a romantic movie together and snuggle.
- Kiss her goodbye before heading to work.
- Surprise her with roses or chocolates.
Follow the above points and soon you will start building exciting and romantic future together, for the rest of your lives. MarriageSofa
